Approaching a loved one about their substance use disorder requires compassion, preparation, and the right words. Knowing what to say during an intervention — finding the language to express your concern while encouraging positive change — can make all the difference in a successful intervention.
At Drew Horowitz & Associates, our certified intervention specialists understand the delicate nature of these conversations and can guide you through this challenging process with evidence-based approaches that truly work.
How To Prepare For the Intervention
Before the intervention takes place, thorough preparation is essential. This includes:
- Consulting with professionals: Work with certified intervention specialists who can guide the process based on evidence and experience.
- Gathering information: Understand the specific substance use patterns and their impact on your loved one’s life.
- Selecting participants: Choose people who are important to your loved one and can remain calm and supportive.
- Rehearsing your statements: Practice what you’ll say to ensure your message comes across with love rather than judgment. Consider writing a letter to read aloud.
- Planning for next steps: Have treatment options ready, including plans with accredited recovery centers.
Things To Say During an Intervention
The words you choose during an intervention should reflect genuine concern rather than criticism. Writing down your thoughts beforehand can help you communicate clearly during what will likely be an emotional conversation.
The following phrases can help guide your communication during this important conversation:
1. “I love you”
Begin with an affirmation of your unconditional love. This establishes that the intervention comes from a place of care, not judgment. For example: “Before anything else, I want you to know that I love you deeply, and that’s why I’m here today.”
2. “I believe in you”
Express your confidence in their ability to overcome challenges. This helps counter feelings of hopelessness they may experience: “I’ve seen your strength in so many situations, and I believe you have what it takes to overcome this challenge too.”
3. “You’re important to us”
Remind them of their value and place in your life and community: “Your presence in our family brings so much joy and meaning. We all need you in our lives.”
4. “I’m worried about you”
Share specific concerns from a place of love rather than accusation: “When you missed your daughter’s graduation after using, I worried about the pain you both felt. I’m concerned about how this is affecting your relationships and well-being.”
Express worries about their health, family connections, or other specific impacts without blame: “I’ve noticed you’ve been experiencing health issues, and I’m concerned about how your substance use might be contributing to those problems.”
5. “I’m here for you”
Offer specific ways you’ll provide support throughout their recovery journey: “Whatever you need during this process — whether it’s rides to treatment, someone to talk to, or help with daily responsibilities — I commit to being there for you.”
6. “You can get better”
Share hope for recovery, possibly including stories of others who have successfully overcome similar challenges: “Recovery is possible. I’ve seen many people reclaim their lives from substance use disorders with the right support, and I know you can too.”
7. “Thank you”
Express gratitude for their willingness to listen: “Thank you for hearing us out today. It takes courage to sit through this conversation, and I appreciate your willingness to be here.”
Consult With An Intervention Specialist
An intervention conducted with compassion and professional guidance can be the turning point in your loved one’s journey toward recovery. The words you choose matter greatly in creating an atmosphere of support rather than shame or judgment.
For families and friends dealing with the impacts of substance use disorders, Drew Horowitz & Associates offers certified intervention services based on evidence-backed approaches. Our team specializes in hosting interventions, partnering with accredited recovery treatment centers to ensure a seamless transition to care.
We understand that every family’s situation is unique, which is why we provide personalized guidance through the entire intervention process, including our specialized sober companion services for ongoing support. Remember, reaching out for professional help isn’t giving up on your loved one — it’s providing them with their best chance at lasting recovery. Call us at (800) 731-0854 today.
