Facing your first Thanksgiving in sobriety can feel challenging, especially with the holiday centered around family gatherings, food, and often, drinks. But with a little preparation, it can be a meaningful day of gratitude and joy. Here’s how to make it through this holiday season while staying true to your recovery goals.
1. Plan Ahead
Preparation is key when heading into the holidays sober. Think about who will be there, what the environment will be like, and if there will be triggers. It’s also helpful to communicate with family members or friends beforehand, so they understand that you’re sober and can support you. If you’re attending a larger gathering, bring along a sober friend to help you feel more comfortable.
2. Practice Gratitude
Thanksgiving is about gratitude, so take some time to reflect on what you’re thankful for in your recovery. Focusing on the positive changes in your life and the progress you’ve made can give you the strength to make it through the day. Write down a gratitude list before the festivities or start a new Thanksgiving tradition of sharing one thing you’re grateful for with loved ones.
3. Set Boundaries
You don’t have to attend every event or stay the entire time. Set boundaries that keep you comfortable, whether that means only attending certain parts of the gathering or planning an early exit if things get overwhelming. If someone pressures you to drink, have a response ready. Simple phrases like, “I’m taking a break from alcohol” or “I feel better without it” can help steer the conversation in a positive direction.
4. Bring Your Own Drinks
Having a non-alcoholic drink in hand can be a great way to avoid feeling left out and reduce any questions about why you’re not drinking. Bring some sparkling water, a festive mocktail, or your favorite non-alcoholic beverage. This simple step can help you feel more at ease and give you something to look forward to during Thanksgiving dinner.
5. Focus on the Experience
Staying sober allows you to be fully present, notice details, and connect more deeply with family and friends. Take the opportunity to observe and appreciate these moments. Engage in the conversations, savor the food, and enjoy the traditions that make Thanksgiving special. You might be surprised at how much more you notice and enjoy when alcohol isn’t part of the equation.
6. Have a Support System
Even if you’re spending Thanksgiving away from your usual support group, make a plan to stay connected. Arrange a call or text with a sober friend, join an online meeting, or keep your therapist or sponsor’s number handy. Knowing you have someone to reach out to if things get tough can make all the difference.
7. Celebrate Your Success
At the end of the day, take a moment to celebrate your accomplishment. Staying sober during your first Thanksgiving is something to be proud of. Acknowledge the strength it took to make it through the day and reflect on how you feel. This success can build your confidence as you continue on your recovery journey.
Take the Next Step in Your Recovery Journey
Navigating your first sober Thanksgiving is a milestone. If you’re looking for additional support on your recovery journey, consider reaching out to a professional sober coach.
At Drew Horowitz & Associates, our compassionate team is here to help you stay on track, set personal goals, and overcome challenges. Call (800) 731-0854 today to start building a healthier, more fulfilling future.
